Countdown to Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life – 29 Days Left

Written by M.



Time for lesson #8 in this crash course to Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life

Who is Christopher Hayden?

Rory’s father and Lorelai’s high school boyfriend. He and Lorelai tried to start a relationship as adults several times, but the timing was always off. They do end up getting married spontaneously on a trip to Paris, but they separate (on good terms) only a few months later as Lorelai realizes they weren’t right for each other. He was previously engaged to Sherry, with whom he has a daughter, Gigi.


Christopher grew up surrounded by family wealth on the same scale as the Gilmore’s. He does not seem to have a very loving relationship with his parents Straub and Francine, who respectively expect only business success from Christopher or criticize everything about him. While he didn’t express great love for his grandfather Hayden, the latter was most fond of Christopher out of the entire family and so, Chris may have had at least one pleasant relationship with someone in his family that wasn’t based on status and image.
Following the pregnancy, Christopher sheepishly complied with his parents’ wishes that he marry Lorelai, live at the Gilmore house and work at Richard’s firm, although thanks to Lorelai’s strength of will this never occurred. While Chris is shown to have had limited contact with Lorelai and Rory in the years that followed, he never did attend Princeton as he parents wished for him, and it is unclear whether he did take up academia.


Christopher was never really sure how to handle Lorelai’s falling out with and leaving her parents, resulting in him not handling it at all and thus being mostly absent from Rory’s life. Christopher comes to Stars Hollow for the first time when Rory is 16, and although established that Rory does have a relationship with her father of sorts, Lorelai is wary of him getting to close to their daughter if he’s not going to be a constant presence in her life. Chris admits to Lorelai that it’s heartbreaking for him to see Rory, because he misses her so much all the time that it’s ‘easier to stay away’.
Chris proposes abruptly to Lorelai during a conversation about their previous night together and Lorelai lets him know that he might have a chance one day, when he’s ready to be a father and husband. For about six months Chris is not around, although he seems to have taken up a frequent habit of phoning Rory, which later turns into a weekly occurrence. When Lorelai calls him up on the eve of her bachelorette party, telling Chris for the first time that she’s getting married, he knows that Max is the guy, courtesy of his chats with Rory. When Chris makes his second visit to Stars Hollow, Lorelai discovers that he got a steady job, a car, a new phone number and apartment – in Boston. He isn’t overly passionate about his work, but seems happy to have a steadiness in his life and relays to Lorelai that he doesn’t want his parents life. This could mean that he doesn’t want to focus on his reputation and how his career defines him, as his parents are defined by their ‘societal stature’ and riches.


Chris later returns to Stars Hollow to present Rory at her debutante ball and tells Lorelai that he is now living in Boston with his girlfriend Sherry Tinsdale and has a good job. When Rory and Jess crash Rory’s car and she fractures her wrist, Christopher is the one Lorelai calls after seeing Rory’s damaged car and he ends up staying with them for a couple of days. At first Sherry and Christopher are serious, but Chris later becomes unhappy with Sherry, wanting to leave her and he and Lorelai sleep together. However, when he learns Sherry is pregnant, he goes back to her. Sherry gives birth to their daughter Georgia, nicknamed Gigi. 2 years later Sherry leaves him and Gigi to take a job in Paris. Christopher repeatedly turns to Lorelai for help with his daughter. Christopher’s presence in Lorelai’s life puts strain on her relationship with Luke Danes. Lorelai stays over at Christopher’s house the night she and Rory find out from Richard and Emily that Christopher’s father, Straub Hayden, has died, and the both of them drink tequila all night long, but have no sexual interaction whatsoever. At Emily’s urging, Christopher attends Emily and Richard’s wedding vow renewal and begs her to get back together with him. Lorelai is furious with both her mother and Christopher, and they don’t speak for several months


They get back in touch when Christopher wants to financially provide for Lorelai and Rory, and they agree he’ll take over paying Rory’s tuition at Yale. After Lorelai and Luke break up, Lorelai spends the night with Christopher, and they begin a relationship. After accompanying Gigi to France to see her mother, Christopher asks Lorelai to marry him and elope, and Lorelai and Christopher spontaneously get married, and Christopher moves into Lorelai’s house in Stars Hollow. However, Christopher continues to be very jealous of Luke. After he finds a letter that Lorelai wrote for Luke’s custody battle, Christopher questions whether Lorelai really loves him. When Lorelai’s father has a heart attack, Christopher is upset to see Luke at the hospital. Lorelai considers cutting Luke out of her life completely to save her marriage, but a conversation with Sookie makes Lorelai realize that their relationship isn’t right. She tearfully breaks up with him and he sadly (but respectfully) realizes that if it took her 20 years to get him to say “Yes”, he should have known they weren’t meant to be. They part on good terms and Chris is seen proudly watching his daughter graduate from Yale.


Some of the fans our concerned about what the return out Christopher in the new series will mean to the relationship of Lorelai and Luke. And although I think Lorelai and Luke will have some trouble in the series, I don’t think Christopher will be one of these problems. Lorelai and Christopher gave it a real change in the last season and even end up married. And when they both realized that it wasn’t working and that they’re not right for each other.
I’m actually really happy that Christopher will return for the new series, I enjoy the story lines that include Christopher and I find him an amazing man and I was sad when he and Lorelai split for good. Don’t get me wrong, I like Lorelai and Luke together, but there is something about Christopher that made me root for him. When it comes to Lorelai and Luke or Lorelai and Christopher I’m undecided.
Besides, our girls will need his support in the wake of Richard’s death especially Rory. And seriously, if Luke still has issues with Christopher after all this time, there’s only one thing left to say.. And I say this with the love but GROW UP! But, we haven’t crossed that bridge yet, let’s wait and see what they made of is.

So far for now.
Have love,


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